The Ruhama Experience

Also see: A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed

“Eileen Lang” was the alias I used to protect myself when I first stepped back into the arena. *Coming out* under my own name without sustaining huge damage required all the PR training and Political experience I had helped myself to over the past 20 years or so. It also required a huge chunk of blind luck.

Please do *NOT* attempt this trick at home. If I had not laid the right ground work before Stormont decided to teach me a lesson, and discourage any more sex workers from challenging their nonsense by *outing* me it is unlikely I would have survived. I am not sure if anyone else could or would have without my lifelong autistic default to social isolation. 

The email I used at the time  no longer exists, so I have deleted it to avoid confusion. If you wish to contact me you may do so on:- mechanima@gmail.com

I suspect an expert in Forensic linguistics would have a field day with it all.

 I always wonder what an expert in Microexpressions would make of them all…maybe they will live to regret uploading themselves onto youtube and gloating quite as much as they have.

 Enjoy…

 

From: Eileen Lang
Sent: 17 January 2012 13:46
To: admin@ruhama.ie
Subject: Meeting

Hi,

I will understand if it is far too short notice but any time between about 1:00pm and 3:30pm on Friday should suit me very well. If that is suitable please say where.

Regards,

Eileen Lang

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From: Sarah [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 4:47 PM
To: Eileen Lang
Subject: Meeting

HI Eileen,

The e-mail you sent to our admin address was forwarded to me. Thanks for getting in touch. I have been reading with interest your contributions on our facebook page and I look forward to meeting with you but unfortunately I can’t make Friday! However I am pretty free on Monday if there is a time then which might suit you to meet up for a coffee and a conversation?

I’m happy to meet you somewhere in town that’s convenient or you would be very welcome to come to our offices in All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9? That said I am working on the presumptuous assumption that you are based in Dublin?

If Monday isn’t possible for you please suggest a couple of times/dates.

Best wishes,

Sarah Benson
CEO
Ruhama, Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9
Phone: 353 1 8360292
Fax:     353 1 8360268
Website: http://www.ruhama.ie

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From: Eileen Lang
Date: Tue, 17 Jan 2012 18:24:25 +0000
To: Sarah<sarah@ruhama.ie>
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

Hi again Sarah,

It just occurred to me that you might find the attached interesting before we meet.

Regards,

Eileen

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From: sarah@ruhama.ie [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 9:19 PM
To: Eileen Lang
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

Hi Eileen,

Thanks very much for this. I had a quick dip in and it is very compelling reading. I will certainly read it fully before we meet. Are you the author?

Sorry monday doesn’t work for you. My schedule is a bit up in the air after monday but is there a day when you might be in Dublin? Alternatively if you are comfortable telling me where you are based I could look at coming to you/meeting you half way? I’m sure we can pin something down.

Regards
Sarah
Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless handheld

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From: Eileen Lang [mailto:eileenlang00@gmail.com]
Sent: 18 January 2012 04:55
To: sarah@ruhama.ie
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

Hi Sarah,

Glad you used the word “compelling” – I am lately trying to work on the full “all about me” (rather than any specific issues) version in the 3rd person…and I worry about my capacity to be pedantic, and preach. :o)

It was written as a series of articles for an online content site in late 2000 – which is why some of the terminology is americanised and so many things are converted into dollars. I compiled it as a book and padded it a bit with some more autobiographical stuff when the dot coms crashed in 2001 with the intention of maybe selling it as an e-book, but I never did. There was always far more of a market for semi literate, sensationalised “bawdy tales” anyway.

Monday isn’t a particularly bad day for me, just a bit too soon after Friday for a major expedition back into town, among other things I still have the tail end of bronchitis and I have to be a bit careful.

You know what would really work well? Could we meet in Naas at some point?

Eileen

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From: Sarah [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 10:49 AM
To: ‘Eileen Lang’
Subject: RE: Meeting – more

Hi Eileen,

Yes it’s true that the “Belle Du Jour”s of this world tend to be the ones who are snapped up for book and TV rights deals but authentic voices do occasionally make it through.

Actually I could meet you in Naas on Friday the 27th at about 1.30pm if that would be any good to you?

Hope you feel better soon.
Regards
Sarah

Sarah Benson
CEO
Ruhama, Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9
Phone: 353 1 8360292
Fax:     353 1 8360268
Website: http://www.ruhama.ie

Ruhama now has the facility to collect direct debits from those who wish to support Ruhama’s work on a regular monthly basis. Visit our website for further information and access the simple form:  http://www.ruhama.ie/page.php?intPageID=203

Ruhama is a company limited by guarantee and not having a share capital, registered in Dublin, Ireland with registered office at Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9 and registered company number 209799. Ruhama is also a charity with CHY number 10733.

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From: Sarah [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 10:55 AM
To: ‘Eileen Lang’
Subject: FW: Meeting – more

Hi Eileen, I meant to ask you: I will treat your document as confidential unless you indicate otherwise but would you mind if I shared it in-house with a colleague for her information? It would still be treated as a private document.
Thanks,
Sarah

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From: Eileen Lang [mailto:eileenlang00@gmail.com]
Sent: 18 January 2012 11:29
To: Sarah
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

Hi Sarah,

….ah, but also bear in mind that this PARTICULAR authentic voice would rather die in agony over a very slow fire than get caught up in a publicity mill of any kind, let alone a sensationalistic one.  That too is a factor.

The “professional victim” voice, that profits on a far less empirical scale, is no more authentic, and very, VERY manipulative.

Next Friday at 1:30 is perfect for me. Do you know that hotel that used be the Bridewell? It’s a nice quiet place to meet and talk – unless it has suddenly gone bankrupt and closed down.

Oh and remember to arm yourself…Naas has the biggest Tesco Extra in the country…and after dragging you out all that way it is only fair to warn you of that opportunity.

Regards,

Eileen
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From: Sarah [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 11:47 AM
To: ‘Eileen Lang’
Subject: RE: Meeting – more

That is a fair point Eileen,

It is true that “authenticity” is often relative to a person’s experience as they are living it at the time. But I do think different things motivate different people to express themselves publicly, so I am not sure if “voices” can always be so neatly categorized? Speaking publicly and getting embroiled in a publicity mill are not mutually inclusive. We would not be having this conversation now if you had not spoken publicly on a social media forum in response to public communications by us?

All this said, I am now looking forward very much to meeting. We may not agree at all on some points (as you have already noted) but it feels like we could have a very engaging discussion. We may surprise each other 

I’m not sure that I know that hotel but I’m sure I can find it. Do you know the name of the road or its new name?

I will also bring my shopping bags!

Regards
Sarah

Sarah Benson
CEO
Ruhama, Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9
Phone: 353 1 8360292
Fax:     353 1 8360268
Website: http://www.ruhama.ie

Ruhama now has the facility to collect direct debits from those who wish to support Ruhama’s work on a regular monthly basis. Visit our website for further information and access the simple form:  http://www.ruhama.ie/page.php?intPageID=203

Ruhama is a company limited by guarantee and not having a share capital, registered in Dublin, Ireland with registered office at Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9 and registered company number 209799. Ruhama is also a charity with CHY number 10733.
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From: Eileen Lang [mailto:eileenlang00@gmail.com]
Sent: 18 January 2012 12:57
To: Sarah
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

Ah…

But I am not talking about relative or subjective authenticity in this context (we all own our own subjectivity, no-one has the right to trepass on that)…I am talking about an unacceptable level of deviance from demonstrable hard, physical fact (after, of course allowing for minor adjustments to protect identifying details) BEFORE any subjectivity kicks in.
Once the “experience” itself is a fiction the subjectivity it underpins becomes someone else’s artificially manufactured misconception… “awareness” in every political context I can think of (not just prostitution) is fast becoming a synonym for agenda filtered, blended, compound, codswallop as a result.

Speaking publicly and “getting embroiled in a publicity mill” are most definately two VERY different things, but only ONE of them sells books.

I spoke publicly because I genuinely could not live with just standing by and watching the catastrophic effects of any legislation that will attack the earning potential of women in prostitution in a deep recession without throwing everything I have got at it.

Yes, when the worse comes to the worst for me I would like to think I could still have an option on making money by selling sex to survive – but honestly, between us, I think that’s a comforting lie I tell myself to try and sleep at night…in real terms, I do not think I could actually face it again…but I also know beyond doubt that there nothing else that will save me – along with a lot of other people…life is cr*p like that sometimes…nobody’s fault, just the way it is.

I believe that, when that happens, each of us is under a moral obligation that, if we cannot help at least we do NOTHING to make it worse.

I am just doing my duty.

I agreed to meet Ruhama because I am not kidding about “throwing everything I have got at it”. I am looking forward to meeting with you because I begin to suspect we may have a lot in common despite the vast differences in our lives.

The Bridewell is (predictably) just a little to the left of the courthouse on the main street…like a square tower set back from the road…http://www.naascourthotel.com/

…bring MANY bags…

Regards,

Eileen

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From: Sarah [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 1:43 PM
To: ‘Eileen Lang’
Subject: RE: Meeting – more

Hi Eileen,

I think (especially as I have read a little bit more of your work now) that we’re coming from a similar analysis but ending up with very different propositions and we’ll have much to discuss on that basis. It may be that we walk away agreeing to disagree but, like yourself, I will always endeavour to create a space to engage respectfully with difference on this issue. I can feel your passion and it is something that I hold very dear for my part also – even if we come from different experiences (although you don’t know mine?). We can be sure we won’t have nothing to talk about 😉

Thanks for the link  – I’m sure I’ll find that spot.

See you on the 27th.
Regards
Sarah

Sarah Benson
CEO
Ruhama, Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9
Phone: 353 1 8360292
Fax:     353 1 8360268
Website: http://www.ruhama.ie

Ruhama now has the facility to collect direct debits from those who wish to support Ruhama’s work on a regular monthly basis. Visit our website for further information and access the simple form:  http://www.ruhama.ie/page.php?intPageID=203

Ruhama is a company limited by guarantee and not having a share capital, registered in Dublin, Ireland with registered office at Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9 and registered company number 209799. Ruhama is also a charity with CHY number 10733.
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From: Eileen Lang
Date: Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:20:13 +0000
To: Sarah<sarah@ruhama.ie>
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

Hi Sarah,

Let me put it a different way…let us not fall out at least until we have had the pleasure of meeting.

Of course I don’t know your experience…but of course I DID google you 64 ways to kingdom come to get as much background as I could. Not everything, but enough to know you have lived your whole life in a parallel universe to me (no fault on either side for that!).

Which reminds me…serendipity…you studied in Krakow? You wouldn’t happen to have any information on which years the University was “suppressed” under the communists? It’s absolutely nothing to do with any of this…a friend of mine has been stung by someone presenting what we are almost SURE are false credentials in psychology from Krakow in the 60s…the chances of running into someone who studied their to ask about when the university was suppressed were, of course, a million to one. Anything you can find out would be much appreciated.

Regards,

Eileen

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From: sarah@ruhama.ie [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 6:07 PM
To: Eileen Lang
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

I hate to put your efforts down Eileen but I think you googled the wrong Sarah Benson. I’ve never been to Poland!
Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless handheld

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From: Eileen Lang
Date: Wed, 18 Jan 2012 22:29:19 +0000
To: <sarah@ruhama.ie>
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

What a shame.,

You have no idea how important that information on Krakow would be to someone who really deserves a break…I knew I couldn’t get that lucky…don’t suppose you would consider going there post grad and reporting back?

I do have the right *right* Sarah Benson now, and the one thing that hasn’t changed is that we have lived our lives in completely parallel universes…

Eileen

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From: sarah@ruhama.ie [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 11:08 PM
To: Eileen Lang
Subject: Re: Meeting – more

Let’s just have our proper introductions when we meet?

The web can tell us some things but it is never reflective of the complexity of an individual human being’s life.

I don’t dispute our differences – probably major – but we are all different and I try not to let that present a barrier. I have often been pleased and surprised by positive connections and sometimes great friendships I have made with people who could be said to be poles apart from me so open mind for my part.

See you next week

Oh and sorry no plans to head to the East!
Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless handheld

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From: Eileen Lang
Date: Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:55:42 +0000
To: <sarah@ruhama.ie>
Subject: Being honest…

Sarah,

I don’t think I can meet you after all, I would just be taking too big a risk for too little advantage.

It is not you, I have a gut feeling that you are very sincere, albeit a little too brittle and defensive. I do not think you would deliberately harm anyone…and if you did it inadvertantly I think you would probably punish yourself far more than anyone else could when you realised…

…but you trust people who have given me every reason to distrust them, for many years. I have been going back over it all in my mind and I realise I would want to be off my head to put you in a position to be able to identify me…

I believe that one day you will realise that everything I have been saying is 100% right…but how much harm could come to me before that?

I am going to tell you something off record, and just keep an open mind, even for your own sake. Many years ago, when it became apparent that I had a very strong voice lobbying for recognition of the reality and the needs of women in prostitution, and that I had absolutely no intention of suspending my powers of critical thinking and giving unquestioning devotion to Ruhama and the WHP, one of the Nuns took it upon herself to start a rumour among the more robust women in the canal and Mount Street areas that I was bringing young junkies out onto the streets.

Understand the context. The 1993 law had just been enacted, instead of being able to focus on dissociating, getting the job done and getting home with the money in reasonable safety (though money was no longer easy to come by because of the recession), the women were suddenly plunged into a parallel universe where the Police that used protect them where no one instructions to hunt them, and, as people do when they have no taste for what they must do, were apt to work themselves up into something of a defensive frenzy over it.

The women who once stayed off drink and drugs during working hours for sense and safety were now nervous wrecks who had to be half cut or loaded with valium to handle it. Ruhama and the WHP has started an irresponsible panic about AIDS just to consolidate their power base, and the organised crime elements were already taking advantage of the changed circumstances to seize control.

In that climate, spreading a rumour that someone was bringing out young drug addicts was to place their life at significant risk. Luckily for me, the women knew more than the nun did. In her contempt for prostitutes she had assumed I only claimed to be gone from the streets for effect…but the women knew differently, that I had not been in or near the town for more than six months, so three of them made it their business to tell me what had happened

I confronted the nun in question and she did not even bother to deny it.

Seriously, do you not even see a little irony in the fact that both orders involved were still involved in the Magdelene Laundries, treating vulnerable women as badly, or worse than any trafficker ever did, when Ruhama was formed, and that now they are spending all their time using a campaign against the way they were only recently treating vulnerable women themselves as a springboard to obtain government funding for residential and vocational services again, while still refusing to compensate the victims of their own previous transgressions (so no remorse there)

At least one of the nuns involved in the foundation of Ruhama came from the Magdelene Asylum in Belfast…the Magdelene Laundry in Waterford that did not close until 1996 was operated by the Good Shepherd Sisters, at the same time as Ruhama.

It was the sale of a derelict Magdelene Laundry belonging to the sisters of charity that exposed the truth…they asked for permission to exhume the bodies of 133 inmates that they had death certificates for, but 155 bodies were found, nobody knows who the other 22 were, nor how, or why they got buried there unrecorded. Their lives stolen from them god knows how, behind high walls and locked windows.

Can you even imagine what it was like to be trapped in one of those places with even the Nuns you are accustomed to dealing with having the power of life and death over you…and do not take the view that you would never let yourself get in that situation, rather find out exactly *HOW* women came to be in that situation…trust me…just because of the way you look you would have been at as much risk as anyone else.

Beyond that…when Anne produced a link to that Swedish report I was at a loss for words, everything about it is so far removed from reality that the only way my mind would sum it up is as “Monty Python and the Swedish Vice laws” I am not being unkind, that is the most concise description of the way it strikes me.

Even the Swedish government’s own figures and statistics do not support the arguments they are putting forward, and it is all predicated on welfare resources that still have not *really* happened 12 years later (imaginary resources invented to *sell* the idea are not much use at the coal face)..

It would all be academic, and interesting to debate if two religious orders had not used every NGO they are involved in to whip up a frenzy aimed at taking away the very last chance less than 0.1% of the women in this country will have of keeping their lives and families together during a depression set to be more lethal and terrifying than the ’30s.

If it was about genuine concern for the best interests of the women then they would be campaigning for exit resources, not punitive laws…but they have never done that yet. You can’t get away from that…it tells it’s own story.

If it was about giving the women a real voice to assert their real needs then it would not be necessary for the women to be offered a choice between Ruhama and prosecution by the Gardai before they would engage at all (which is, by the way, very clearcut bullying).

If it was about stamping out trafficking and pimping they would be fighting for decriminalisation in order to get the women, and their clients, on board to assist in tracking down and prosecuting real instances of trafficking. Note I say “decriminalisation” not legalisation.

Full legalisation does not work on so many levels, but informal decriminalisation between 1982 and 1993 effectively eradicated pimping and criminal involvement – that is hard fact that everyone is determined to ignore and brush under the carpet.

Ruhama claims to have assisted 60 trafficked women in 2010…a year in which the first and only Irish prosecution for trafficking was put before the DPP. 1 trafficker to 60 women? I don’t think so, but if you want to argue the point let me remind you if that is a reasonable ratio there could not be more than about 10 traffickers in the country…use the independent women and their clients to help nail them and it is over.

This is not about concern for the women at all but rather about playing to public order issues and sacrificing the women’s lives to sustained or increased funding.

But leave all that aside, how can an organisation that devotes itself to deliberate and determined denial of most of the factors affecting the women’s real lives and circumstances possibly relate to their needs well enough to give them any effective help? How can counselling biased by a totally alien ideology even be helpful? Let alone mentally and emotionally healthy?

Punitive legislation that attacks their earning capacity and safety, is only an attempt to force that inappropriate “aid” upon them against their wishes and best interests…again, a very serious form of bullying imposed on people who are already far too badly damaged and vulnerable…

Sarah, whatever you, personally, genuinely want to achieve, that is not real help for anyone, and, after 8 years on the Women’s Aid helplines familiarising yourself with how the complexities of pathological control and emotional abuse pan out there must be at least a part of you that already suspects that independent of anything I might say, but if you should openly challenge it you are likely to find yourself on the fast track to realising I have not been making anything up.

Most of the women can stand Ruhama because they claim to speak for them and yet say the opposite to what they want and need, and they have spent more than 20 years dreading what Ruhama will do to make their lives harder next…and knowing how little point there is in trying to reason with Ruhama on either score…
It is already coming perilously close to a revised model of the Magdelene Laundries for the 21st century…women being coerced by legislation, police and NGO into engaging with an organisation that has little insight and fewer scruples about what will actually become of them. Both Orders are currently up to their eyes in questionable and rigidly controlled residential services.

I would say that, by now, whatever you first thought, you realise there is absolutely no chance of intellectually overwhelming me…and I can assure you there is literally nothing Ruhama could offer, however desperate I was, that would buy my silence, let alone my compliance or support, so you would have had a wasted journey anyway.

I hope that we do meet some day, and that when we do, whatever makes you brittle and defensive is only a dim memory. I know you have seen terrible suffering and abuses and been deeply affected and moved by them, which is to your credit, But even so, that is very different to being personally trapped in those situations, with no safety to go home to on evenings and weekends.

When my life hits the wall that is rushing towards me like an express train I may once again have 3 choices:
1) I can commit suicide
2) I can slide into living on the street in a destitute state with no hope of future recovery
3) I can sell sex and keep most of my life together until there was an opportunity to sort out something better

I wish I could sit and explain to you more thoroughly than the book exactly why that is, and how it works, just so you would realise that can actually happen, but if I did that I would not only, almost certainly, identify myself, I would also be providing a detailed catalogue of how to do me no end of harm at will. My nerves could not take that.

Just take my word for it, and for the fact that, terrified as I am, I would genuinely be far better off with any of the options above than with allowing Ruhama the slightest control over my life.

I believe that I have a fundamental human right to sell sex to save my own life if I can face it…and that trying to take that fundamental human right away from me, or anyone is a very great sin indeed.

I will, literally, fight this legislation to the death if I have to, as a moral obligation to all the women, and children who will get pushed through the cracks and suffer terribly if it goes through.

I have every confidence that one day you will see the truth of this for yourself, and I do not think of you unkindly at all…

…and don’t worry there is no point in endless circular arguments with people who are so determined to impose their belief system, by hook or by crook, on the lives of others less fortunate than themselves that they cannot even take the time to grasp the basic arithmetic involved let alone the hard facts.

It becomes like being trapped in a kind of insanity…very unhealthy.

You will not have to ban me.

E.

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From: sarah@ruhama.ie [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:30 PM
To: Eileen Lang
Subject: Re: Being honest…

Dear Eileen,

I’m sorry not to meet, but respect your need to protect yourself completely.

Thank you for sharing an experience which I can only imagine had a terrible impact on you. While there is no one working in Ruhama today who was there in 1993 I will of course respect your confidence. I have no interest in discovering your identity unless you yourself choose some day to disclose it.

I would have liked to have had a chance to tell you about Ruhama as it exists and operates today; how it has evolved from the organisation you knew 19years ago. You might be surprised.

We are now a diverse group of all faiths and none (in my case!). Our work is almost entirely frontline in nature – the policy work is small by comparison (though more public of course). We are striving to operate a model that supports women to exit if or when they are ready. We don’t judge women but try to find creative and practical solutions to the individual issues they raise. I’m not saying it’s all happy days – women’s lives are very hard. But I believe in the small part we play in trying to lessen the burden. I do think from what you have written that your perception of Ruhama doesn’t reflect who we are now.

You mention the Magdalene Laundries and truly this chapter in Irish life is a terribly painful one. It is very important that all involved address this legacy. However, this is not a matter for Ruhama as an independent charity which is one of many in Ireland that has a religious trusteeship. It is a matter for the 4 congregtions involved, the State and the citizens themselves whose families were involved.

It might interest you to know that I have spoken at length about the Magdalene Enquiry with one of the 6 co-ordinators of the “Justice for Magdalene” campaign, whom I know personally. They have no issues with Ruhama or it’s work as they see this distinction.

I read your book Eileen and appreciate being given the privilege. I really wasn’t terribly confident I’d change your views but would have had a shot! Mabey another time. We disagree about the legislation and I would have enjoyed a more nuanced discussion in person but this way of communicating you are right – we could just keep circling and I don’t want to do that either.

I am not sure what has happened for you in the last decade since your book was completed Eileen? You shared the pain of your existence up to that point vividly.

I know that the idea of reaching out for support to Ruhama is simply anathema to you, but your life appears to be approaching a very dark place. Before you feel like one of the three choices you outline is inevitable please consider making contact.

I don’t have any promises to make to you and wouldn’t patronise you with platitudes, but consider it a last resort before the last resort – at least think about it.

Take care Eileen, truly.
Sarah
Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless handheld

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From: Eileen Lang [mailto:eileenlang00@gmail.com]
Sent: 29 January 2012 16:21
To: sarah@ruhama.ie
Subject: Re: Being honest…

Dear Sarah,

I am sure we will meet some day, I am not even sure that we have not already done so.
Funny thing, some of the other co-ordinators of the “Justice for Magdalenes” campaign have some very serious issues with Ruhama indeed. Hardly surprising, bearing in mind that the Good Shepherds and the Sisters of Charity are two of the orders that have yet to acknowledge or apologise for what happened, confining themselves to “we are sorry if any of our former residents feel unhappy” type statements that only rub the nose in.

If you abuse a dog you are banned from keeping a dog for life, yet two of the orders that ran the Magdalene Laundries have control of pretty much every resource available to someone as isolated and vulnerable as a trafficked foreign national, and want more control yet.

I don’t want to sound funny, but, like anyone else, when my life hits the wall I am going to need an organisation that is dedicated to convincing the world that my greatest needs are to be deprived of an income, a voice and my personal autonomy like I need a hole in my head…and that statement most certainly *does* reflect what ye are up to nowadays, doesn’t it?

1993 was far from my last contact with (or bad experience of) Ruhama

If I told you about the last ten years I would identify myself, but maybe, if I last that long, one day, when you have seen through it all for yourself (and I do think you will). We can sit down with a decent bottle of something and trade stories about the last ten years of both our lives, as equals, and a kind of friends.

Best Regards,

Eileen

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From: Sarah [mailto:sarah@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Wednesday, February 1, 2012 1:23 PM
To: ‘Eileen Lang’
Subject: RE: Being honest…

Dear Eileen,

Sorry for the delayed reply – for some reason this mail got stuck in the spam filter, none of the others did!

I do hope we have a positive meeting in the future.

In the meantime I hope you have good and trusted people around you to support you through your current challenges. I understand you won’t contact us – but I think you know I couldn’t not put the offer out there just in case?

Thank you for the very interesting conversation!

Best wishes
Sarah

Sarah Benson
CEO
Ruhama, Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9
Phone: 353 1 8360292
Fax:     353 1 8360268
Website: http://www.ruhama.ie

Ruhama now has the facility to collect direct debits from those who wish to support Ruhama’s work on a regular monthly basis. Visit our website for further information and access the simple form:  http://www.ruhama.ie/page.php?intPageID=203

Ruhama is a company limited by guarantee and not having a share capital, registered in Dublin, Ireland with registered office at Senior House, All Hallows College, Drumcondra, Dublin 9 and registered company number 209799. Ruhama is also a charity with CHY number 10733.

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From: Eileen Lang [mailto:eileenlang00@gmail.com]
Sent: 03 February 2012 14:26
To: Sarah
Subject: Re: Being honest…reply

Dear Sarah,

Gmails tend to get stuck in the SPAM folder if the same header appears too often…hence frequent changes.

I don’t have anyone to support me, never have had, never will have, but that is still a great deal safer than Ruhama IMHO…in case you did not notice I am not just an intelligent life form, I  also studied PR and politick…nothing gets past me – ever   I see every head game for what it really is, and when my life gets to the wire, head games will be the last thing I will need, and even if not, I think mother should have first refusal? Don’t you?

Likewise this didn’t get past me:
http://www.irishtimes.com/newspaper/ireland/2011/0625/1224299584327.html

“Justice for Magdalenes” came out and publicly condemned Ruhama a year ago.

Are you sure you will be able to live with the fallout to innocent, vulnerable people from what you are really doing? Because to be honest, as someone older and wiser, I am not so sure you will when reality hits you. I don’t think you are as committed to ruthless ambition as you think you are. There is a real, conflicted heart in there. I think you are starting to go too far for your own heart.

If you get your way people will lose their homes, they will lose their families, some of them will lose their lives…

Are you sure you are ready to be responsible for that? Is anything worth hurting people that much for?

Be careful…and I do mean that…

E

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From: Sarah [mailto:Sarah.home@ruhama.ie]
Sent: Friday, February 3, 2012 2:44 PM
To: ‘Eileen Lang’
Subject: RE: Being honest…reply

Dear Eileen,

It was on foot of this article that I spoke with the committee member of the campaign: they have not referenced Ruhama in their public campaign materials since we had an honest and open discussion.  Their objective is to complete a reconciliation process involving the 4 congregations and the state I wish all parties the best in that venture – it is of great importance to Irish society.

I am not sure what to make of your parting line…

Regards
Sarah

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I guess she knows now?

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